When
I was learning to drive, my dad was my main instructor. Every now and then, my mom would drive with
me, and her method of teaching driving skills was very different than my dad’s
method. The end results, though, were
the same: keep it between the lines. So
it is with rearing children. We need to
train them in God’s way, but give them a little freedom to still be an
individual.
This
is an area with which I struggle tremendously.
I am tempted to micro-manage my children’s time, actions, and activities
as if I perhaps could keep them from going astray if I know exactly what they
are doing. However, if I never give them
a chance as children to make a mistake and correct it, then I am not preparing
them for real life. I will not always be
there to remind them of the right action or response to a situation; that’s
where their training will take over.
I
don’t really want my children to each be a “mini me”! They have amazing talents and personality
traits that can develop into tremendous tools for God’s use. If I so strictly control them that they are
not an individual, then I am not allowing them to be who God created them to
be.
Train up a child in the way he should go:
and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6. Train them according to the Bible, then trust
God to lead them. Let them develop a
clothing style as long as it is modest.
Let them try hobbies you might not choose but they enjoy. Allow them to choose the Godly music that
they enjoy, not just what you enjoy. All
in all, your household will be happier; and your children will be more likely
to develop a lasting relationship with Christ if you give them boundaries
instead of expect them to duplicate you.
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