10 Ways to Lose a Teen’s
Attention
By Carey Schmidt
1. Say something not worth hearing—This
is basic, but if you want people to listen, start by saying something worth hearing.
The number one reason we lose the attention of those we teach is that we’re not
convincing them that what we have to say is important. Since there is nothing
more important than teaching young people God’s Word, we’d better make it worth
hearing.
2. Say something with no passion—Have
you ever heard someone teach with no voice inflection, no dynamic—nothing but
monotone droning. It’s miserably hypnotic. If you’re not passionate about what
you teach, don’t expect anyone else to care about it either.
3. Talk down to them—Make your listeners
think that you believe they are completely stupid. Come across like you are
gracing them with your brilliance and you can’t believe they don’t already know
this stuff. Insult them with sharp sarcasm, personal jabs, and harshness. This
will shut them down for sure.
4. Yell or scream at them—There’s a
difference between preaching with passion and just raising your voice out of
sheer frustration, and teens can tell the difference immediately. Preaching
will stir them, but plain old yelling will just irritate them.
5. Teach outside of their context—Have
you ever heard someone teach truth in a way that had no practical connection to
your life whatsoever? The connection between truth and real life is not always
as obvious as we would like it to be. Keeping attention requires that we
constantly ask of truth: “Why do you matter to real life?!”
6. Shoot from the hip—When we don’t
prayerfully prepare substantive, biblical material, we shoot from the hip—speak
off the cuff—frankly, RAMBLE. If you really want to shut teens down, just start
rambling and come across like you have nothing to say that was worth
premeditating.
7. Use no illustrations or personal insights—Jesus
was a great story-teller. He connected truth to tangible application and real
life situations. Listeners need to connect with the teacher or preacher in
tangible ways, and nothing can kill a great truth better than failing to give
it a personal, real-life connection.
8. Talk about nothing but yourself—Have
you ever heard someone tell you how great they were for 45 minutes and call it
a Sunday School lesson or a sermon? Sometimes we could title our lessons, “If
You Would Do What I Do, You Would Be Great Too!” Personal illustrations are
helpful, but teens shut down when we cross over into bragging and
self-exaltation.
9. Speak with lots of distracting idiosyncrasies—You
can completely derail your listeners every time you speak if you will just
develop some nervous twitches, odd phrasings, annoying postures, or awkward
gestures—like frantic pacing or ill-timed arm waving. Everybody in your youth
group will be able to impersonate you, but they will never remember a single
thing you teach. If you want a good litmus test on this—just ask someone to
impersonate you. If they have a tough time, then you’ve probably done a good
job at minimizing your idiosyncrasies.
10. Have no relationship with them beyond your platform—Never
personally interact or develop a relationship with those you teach. Just be a
distant, platform figure with no presence or concern for real people. Remember,
the health and quality of your personal relationship with your listeners is
what gives you the right to be heard in the first place.
BONUS—Make it NO FUN whatsoever! Have you ever known someone that was
gifted at draining every ounce of fun right out of a room as soon as they
stepped in? Guaranteed—if your listeners aren’t enjoying listening, they will
quickly find something else more enjoyable to think about—it’s just human
nature.
It’s pretty painful to
try to listen to a lesson from a speaker that didn’t work to gain and maintain
your attention! It’s even more painful to be that speaker! (Yes, I know this
from far too much personal experience.) Let’s work to make God’s Word come
alive to those we teach!
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