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Monday, June 15, 2015

Monday's Message: Don't use the D-word

Don't use the D-word:
In our home, my wife and I have determined to never use the “D-word!” (DIVORCE).  We did not enter our marriage with an exit plan.  Divorce statistics in our country are staggering.  Our culture has made failure in marriage not only acceptable, but also an expression of a misguided liberation.  A loving, successful, life-long relationship is not created or completed by accident. 

Marriage is work! A successful marriage requires unconditional love, and that is not humanly possible for us to give.  The Bible tells us that, “God is love.”  From this fact we draw the conclusion that a loving relationship will be a Godly relationship.  There are three functions is a successful marriage: husband, wife, and God.  The closer you and I grow towards God the closer you and I will be to our spouses.  Think of this as a triangle, you are on one point and your spouse on the other opposite point of the triangle, with God at the upper or top point.  We cannot move laterally towards our spouses we must move up toward God, but as we move in His direction we also grow closer and closer to our spouses.  There are many issues and difficult circumstances that we will all be required to overcome in order to maintain a happy, peaceful relationship, but we cannot argue with the fact that two surrendered servants of God constantly working to be more like Christ will become the best spouses anyone could ask for.

Only perfect people have the right to expect perfection from anyone else.  When you and I achieve perfection, we may then criticize and coach our spouses on how to be perfect. Until that time comes, perhaps we should all focus on fixing our own flaws and fulfilling our God-given functions in our relationships.  Talk to each other. Pray for and with each other. LOVE each other, and watch God bless your home with peace, joy, longsuffering, and longevity.

I Corinthians 7:10-11:
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: 
11  But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

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